Choosing bridesmaids SHOULD be an easy task.  Right?  WRONG!!!!  I have had soooooo many people come to me and say “My fiancé wants me to have this person in the bridal party but I don’t really know them.”  This is becoming more and more common, especially when there are siblings involved. 

Typically if either the bride or groom has siblings, or close friends they are considered shoe-ins for a spot in the bridal party.  BUT WHY?  When choosing who is going to play a part in your special day do you want someone that you don’t know that well?  NO, you want to have someone that means something to you and has played a huge part in your life. 

Remember, these are the people that will be around you throughout your whole wedding planning experience.  You want to pick someone that you get along with and that can get along with you.  There is a lot of responsibility and honor in being a bridesmaid and you want to have someone that knows this responsibility and who will cherish and honor the role. 

It can also be very expensive to be a bridesmaid, the functions that have to be attended, the gifts, the attire; all of these things have to be purchased by each member of the bridal party.  Someone who may not have a personal connection with you may not be as welling to do this. 

There are so many other roles, individuals who are not as close to you but may want to still play a part in your big day, can hold.  They can read scriptures or readings during the ceremony.  They could also be ushers or hostesses.  All of these are still very important jobs that will allow them to still feel included.

Happy Planning,

Shafonne Myers

Making Your Event Special

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